girljournal:

how to deal with

Anxiety / Depression ☁️🌿

hi,

first i’d like to say you should still see a professional, it doesn’t hurt to get advice or help from the people who specialize in this ♡

i also have anxiety. one thing i would like to say is remember that we are stronger than our anxiety. we can get through anything. we have control over our minds, don’t forget that.

here’s some things i do to help calm my anxiety ..

• listen to calming music, music that’s good for the soul, music that puts you in a good mood

• take a nap. when you’re feeling anxious it’s a good idea to lay down, try to relax, and sleep to free your mind for a while

• have some tea ( lemon balm tea is for stress and anxiety )

• journal ( write down what you’re feeling, what may have triggered you to feel this way and maybe you can avoid some things in the future to lessen your anxiety attacks )

• read a few pages of a book you enjoy ( when you immerse yourself into something else it can really help, getting lost in a book can take your mind off of things )

• avoid social media ( being online a lot can be toxic and not good for your mental health, it can make you anxious and feel overwhelmed so i suggest limiting your time online )

• taking yourself out on a date maybe once a week. treating yourself and having something good to look forward to can help ease your anxiety. doing something you enjoy regularly can take away stress. it doesn’t have to be expensive or anything. it can be to a book store, a coffee shop, the library, have a picnic in your backyard. just something that is enjoyable, something that is calming.

• if you have animals play with them! animals are great stress relievers and can make you so happy and relax you. the love from a pet does wonders for you mentally and emotionally

• don’t stay up too late. getting a good amount of sleep helps with so much. also when you’re up all night it can make you think of things, wonder about things, your mind can go places it shouldn’t be. so i say try to get to bed at a reasonable hour at night

• creative outlets are important. drawing, painting, crocheting etc. if you have a hobby like this then do it often and if you don’t then start one. things like this can be so relaxing when you’re anxious or stressed. i recommend trying something new , see what you’re good at, it can really come in handy when you’re anxiety kicks in

• don’t stay inside all day cooped up in a room. go outside , get some air , go on a walk (in the daytime), sit outside with a book or a snack.
• and speaking of being inside , make sure your space is neat and clean. when there’s chaos all around , things all over and clutter .. that can make you more anxious. so make sure your room or wherever you spend the most time is tidy
• watch comfort shows or movies! this is a big one for me. whenever i feel anxious, stressed, overwhelmed etc i put on a show or movie i love and it really makes me feel so much better. laughing or crying is so therapeutic
• and speaking of crying.. CRY.. if you’re anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, etc letting out your emotions is so healing! have a good cry if you need to. don’t hold back when it comes to being emotional. allow yourself to feel and you will feel better afterwards
• when you’re having a anxiety attack focus on your breathing. calm yourself by breathing in deeply and exhaling slowly. this helps me a lot
• think happy thoughts. it could sound cliche but it helps. when i think of things i love , things that make me happy or smile it helps calm my anxiety

these tips can also help with depression. i really hope something i said can help you. and again you should also see a professional, especially if what i said didn’t help. i want you get better and i want you to live a happy life so if my advice doesn’t help make an appointment with your doctor and they can help you from there. good luck 🤍

sending love and positive energy , please accept ‹𝟹

the-joy-of-knowledge:

An Introvert’s Guide to Winning

If you are like me who is an INTJ-T is seems like the world is not your oyster. in fact, the idea that fortune favors the brave still makes you ponder. Does that mean that if I am not brave enough, I won’t be fortunate? Now imagine being an introvert who is also shy. Here are ways to win as an introvert.

1. Take advantage of your introversion and be a great observer. As someone who grew up shy and introverted it was hard to see my friends winning. Most introverts stay away from large crowds, they prefer smaller intimate settings and if they are socially awkward it’s harder. So here is what I do, I go to a large crowd and watch people, I look at everyones body language, I walk around like I am looking for someone then I pause in awe of how good looking many of them are and how lucky I am. Then I approach the people who look shy or do not have anyone to talk to and I begin asking them questions and find similarities. Being an introvert means you spend more time in your thoughts but what are you thinking? Think in awe and approach a person based on that. It is not about how many people you can talk to but the quality of conversations you have. often times you become lit because you have found someone who thinks just like you and that makes other people want to pitch into that fun conversation that you have.
2. Fine tune your body language and style: So, you are invited to your bosses birthday and you have turned down many outings but you don’t want to disappoint your boss by not going. So, you decide to show up. But how do you show up? You will show up looking your best, put your best foot forward and radiate the energy that is within you. Often times other people will gravitate towards you or the host might introduce you to other people.
3. Take the road less traveled: If you are afraid of not having a talking partner, look for other guests who do not have talking partners or look shy. They are easier to approach, so engage them by asking open ended question, show interest, and make them feel very comfortable around you. This has happened to me several times. I would go to an event and be on the lookout for the oldest person in the room that is often ignored or that person that is by the corner in the dark and illuminate their minds with my quiet extraversion.
4. Be a great storyteller: I do not speak loudly or know everyone in an area. I get tired quickly when I am out and about so I try to give a great story about myself or a random thing that I saw in the mst imaginative, enticing, and romantic way possible. Making the listener feel special about the conversation.
5. Bring the best in you: Being great at what you do will make people speak of you in rooms you never dreamed of getting into. I was recently introduced to the European Union Deputy General of Trade by my Negotiations professor because he considered me one of his brightest students and gave me an invite to the conference the diplomat attended (I was the only student in the room).
6. Capitalize on 1 on 1s: See opportunities to be alone with someones as a time for you to shine. During interviews be elated that this person has chosen to spend time getting to know only you. So this is your time to show off the personality that you have been hiding from the world.

imperatriceauxdiamants:

Everyday, you give your best.

Everyday, you treat yourself the best you can. You make decisions for your optimum benefit. No bullshit.

Everyday, you workout, make that body move to make that mind happy. And everyday, you work on your mindset by journaling, writing out your emotions, feelings, needs, fears and desires, to treat your body and feel better.

Everyday, you give out love to those you hold closest to your heart, and you expect the exact same back. You don’t let anyone empty you of your precious love and energy, so those that deserve it, get it. And that includes you.

Everyday, you give your best, and the Universe will return that twice to you in unexpected ways.

femmefatalevibe:

Becoming your own muse makes you magnetic. It’s the secret to seducing your dream clients, potential business partners, lovers, spouses, friends, family, and anyone who has the honor to grace your presence. People sense individuals who exude confidence and have ignited the fire inside that drives them. Smile at the mirror and recognize the perfection in your reflection. Never let a negative person, undesirable salary, relationship status, or circumstances dim your light. Only you can define your worth. Trust your intuition. You know deep down what’s truly meant for you.

nikasholistic:

Master your self concept. Put on a new identity. Entertain a self image that serves you. The way you perceive yourself is such a fundamental part of your reality. You always get things that are in alignment with your current vibration, and your identity is a huge part of your vibration.

If you perceive yourself as a failure, you will get the circumstances that match this conviction. If you perceive yourself as a success, you will get the circumstances that match this conviction. So change your thoughts about yourself. When you change your beliefs about yourself and your life, you send out a powerful new vibration into the Universe. And you have to get confirmation of this vibration in your reality.

Start thinking like a successful person. Start feeling like a successful person. Start acting and behaving like a successful person. Change your thoughts. Perceive yourself as a happy, abundant person who always gets what they want. Your reality will confirm your new self image. 

✨IG: nikasholistic✨

hermajestyimher:

Work on yourself in silence, don’t expect to be revered by others for your improvements. Improve for yourself only and don’t involve yourself in messy interpersonal situations. Be above all the mediocrity, toxicity, and chaos around you. You don’t owe a reaction or complicity to the people around you.

malusokay:

Glow-up tips that actually work from your favourite beauty girly (me)

Hot girls don’t gatekeep, so here are some of my favourite glow-up tips that actually work. <3

Skin

• Find a skincare routine that works for you!! It took me years to find mine, but now my skin is literally perfect. <3 (let me know if you guys want a detailed skincare routine!!)
• Don’t pick your skin, the less you touch your face, the better.
• I believe ice rollers are bs…
• If you struggle with dark circles, don’t try fixing them through skincare. Most likely, the problem comes from your diet or stress.
• Dry brushing is a game-changer!!
• Use lotion after every shower and apply a body spray before the lotion is fully absorbed into your skin. You’ll smell amazing for DAYS.
• Don’t try homemade skincare if you already struggle with your skin. I learned it the hard way, lol…
• WASH YOUR MAKEUP BRUSHES

Hair

• The more heat you use, the more damage you’ll have.
• SILK PILLOWCASES
• Never sleep with wet or damp hair.
• Stop buying cheap shampoo and conditioner, also make sure to check the ingredients!!
• Some ingredients to avoid: Sulfates, Parabens, Polyethene Glycols, Triclosan, Formaldehyde, Synthetic Fragrances and Colors, Dimethicone, Retinyl Palmitate.
• I trim my hair every 3 months.
• If you have damaged hair, invest in some Olaplex!! my favourites are N4c, N6 and N7. <3

Diet

• green juice actually makes you feel better. I make mine at home and LOVE it :)
• Balance is key!! I swear by the 80/20 rule.
• Drink more water, even if you think you’re drinking enough. DRINK MORE
• Keto is BS <3
• Focus on eating more protein. Usually, low-fat products have more protein, so I just try to buy those, lol.
• I eat gluten-free, not by choice… But it did clear my acne, so…
• Take supplements, get a blood test done, discuss it with a doctor and start taking whatever they recommend. GAME CHANGER.
• EAT MORE VEGETABLES and fruits.

Lifestyle

• Focus on being more active, walk more, workout, join a club or sport, dance, whatever works for you!!
• I aim for 10K steps, I live in a big city, so I usually walk more than that but still.
• Hobbies that don’t include screen time. Trust me.
• Find your personal style and ALWAYS dress up. <3
• TREAT YOURSELF. Buy yourself flowers, and presents, go to your favourite restaurants, vacations!!
• Read more. As a classics lover, I can’t imagine a life without literature, but even if you don’t like classics, any book is better than no book!!
• Take more pictures. I’ve noticed that I have become a lot more present since I’ve started taking more pictures!! highly recommend :)
• I hate to say this, but getting up earlier is lowkey kinda great… been doing it for a few weeks, and unfortunately, I do feel better… they were right…
• Get a cat. :)

Mindset

• Stop assuming that everyone hates you, they don’t, trust me.
• Journaling, manifesting, law of attraction, affirmations.
• one of my favourite affirmations: “if I weren’t capable, the opportunity wouldn’t have come my way; I belong here.” <3
• Stop hanging out with people who drain your energy
• stop consuming media that makes you feel bad.
• What would the highest version of yourself do?
• If you change your mindset, you will change your life.
• Romanticise every aspect of your life. <3

As always, please feel free to share your own suggestions and glow-up tips in the comments! <3

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

ellejos:

becomingthatgirl111:

stop doing this! it prevents you from progressing 😳

there are habits that we have that we do not realize but are slowing down our process of improvement, personal healing, or delaying our goals.
it is important to identify them in order to stop doing these things. all of us at some point have done one or more of these things (myself included) so don’t worry, you can change them!

• leave behind the role of victim

stop: acting like a victim
in turn: take responsibility for your life

it is not benefiting you to keep victimizing yourself and blaming other people for what may or may not have happened.
learn from the situations that made you wrong so that they don’t happen again or maybe there could also be an important lesson for your life.
take responsibility for your actions and thoughts. we are the ones who decide whether to be offended by something or not. take the power away from the people or circumstances that cause you pain and approach it from another point of view, it can be neutral if at that moment you cannot draw any positive lessons. accept the circumstances and propose to take responsibility for your own life.
you may have gone through a very traumatic situation but it is not helping you to repeat it all the time, on the contrary, you are making it bigger and it is blocking the flow of good things in your life.

• don’t react to what you don’t like

stop: pay attention to what we do not like on the outside (our 3d)
in turn: focus on what we do want to attract in our life.

when a situation occurs that we don’t like or that is not what we want to attract in our life, we react badly, we forget everything we have done (it can be affirmations, meditations, or some manifestation method) or we take it as “lost” putting too much focus on what we are seeing or feeling in our 3d reality.
if suddenly a situation comes up that you don’t like and it’s not what you want, ignore it! it can be complicated but in these moments remind yourself what you want to manifest in your life and reconnect with you.
you can write, close your eyes and take a couple of breaths until you re-center yourself, meditate and then do another type of activity that makes you forget that situation that happened.
if you keep focusing constantly on those things that you don’t like, your goals and desires will be delayed because you will be paying more attention to the physical dimension than to your inner self, which is where you create everything. keep this in mind and next time when something like this happens think about what you want.

• tell you the same story over and over again

stop: constantly repeating what you don’t like
in turn: completely change your thinking and focus it on what you want.

is related to the previous points. stop repeating the same story to yourself all the time! what story do i mean? the one you are telling yourself that: nobody loves you, you have no money, this person was very bad to you, you are not good enough. that kind of thing, sound familiar? i could add more to the list and it would be endless. maybe for you right now it is a reality because you are deciding it to be so. you constantly repeat the same thing to yourself and even worse you tell it to other people!!! stop doing that seriously. our words are also creating our reality.
how many times have you met someone (or yourself) and you keep talking about how bad your life is? or you tell others that you have no money? these are still affirmations, but they are negative affirmations.
you are telling yourself a story every day that you are a person who has no money, unlucky in love or at work, and so on constantly. do not expect the divine miracle if you continue with that mentality. you have the power to change it, how? identifying what are those thoughts and starting to use other types of affirmations, this time positive, related to what you want to be or have. or even actions. you repeat to yourself that you have no money? well change your mentality about that, act as if you have money, you don’t need to spend a fortune, but the next time you go out somewhere for a drink and order for example a coffee, don’t repeat to yourself “i don’t have money” repeat to yourself “i am abundant, money flows in my life” think about it and start to avoid saying those things in front of other people or even when you are alone. do the daily exercise of repeating to yourself what you want.

• stay away from environments that are toxic

stop: to meet anyone just to have a bit of company
in turn: set boundaries with yourself and others and get to know yourself first

there are times when we are surrounded by people who are not benefiting us and at first, we can’t do anything about it, such as our family members or colleagues at work or school. in this case, we can ask ourselves what is bothering us about these people? is it something we can solve? and stop reacting to the behaviors we don’t like. if we don’t focus more on it, it will disappear. so don’t keep giving it power. don’t react in any way. just ignore it.

but at other times there are people we can walk away from in our life, maybe friends who are toxic or are not helping us to progress. they don’t have to be bad people, but there are times when we progress and others don’t have the same vibe that we do.
you don’t have to accept plans or do things you don’t like just so you don’t stay alone or without friends.
there are many people in the world and i assure you that there are many people who at this moment share the same ideas and tastes as you, or maybe they are more in resonance with you. so don’t be afraid to cut off friendships or distance yourself from them. you can establish limits.
for example, there are people who always talk about their problems and not with the intention of solving them, just to get someone to pay attention to them.
so move away from those people who no longer add to your life, on the contrary, they subtract and focus on progressing on your path, be sure that new people will appear who resonate more with you.

• stop pleasing everyone

stop: wanting everyone to like you, forcing someone you are not to please others.

in turn: start liking yourself first

another thing that is very common, stop trying to make everyone like you! and even worse you like those people? even if you like them, why would you pretend to be someone you’re not?
you better focus first on loving and knowing yourself, then there will be people who will also like you for who you are, not for the way you look or the things you have.
don’t look for social approval, give yourself your approval first.

For my dear people pleaser

sayhoneysiren:

dark feminine habits

1. ᴍᴀꜱᴛᴇʀʙᴀᴛᴇ. give yourself permission to feel pleasure. it release stress from your body.

2. get naked. dance naked. sleep naked. look at you body in the mirror. soak in a bath. moisturize your skin. get a massage.

3. tell people no. if it’s not a hell yes, don’t waste your time. you have free will to do as you please. you are not a slave.

4. have pride in yourself and your achievements. set goals. accept compliments. own your confidence. shine.

5. flirt. it’s fun.

6. do shadow work. at the end of your day, take time to reflect on your mistakes and write down ways to make progress. this helps you understand your fears and guilts. journal. introspection.

7. don’t go along with anything that feels wrong to you. be assertive and don’t be afraid to cut someone off or cause a scene when your boundaries are crossed.

8. work your brain. do puzzles. reads books. learn about seduction. develop a skill. take time to daydream. visually manifest.

9. be daring. wear a sexy outfit or bold makeup look. show cleavage. follow your dreams. break routine. speak your mind. shock the people around you and ignore their judgements.

10. release timidity. stop overly apologizing, stuttering and overthinking. say exactly what you mean. feel exactly how you feel. banish all forms of guilt and shame.

follow @succulentsiren for more dark feminine energy content♠️

sk-lumen:

How to feel like a queen:

👑 Use daily affirmations which reinforce your awareness of being a queen: I always deserve the best. The universe loves making me happy and fulfilling my wishes. My goals are accomplished effortlessly. Everything always works out for me. I emanate grace and power.

👑 Wear your best jewelry, perfume and clothing daily. Every day is a worthy occasion to let your inner lioness and queen shine, you don’t need to wait for ‘that special occasion’ that is always some other day in the future and never right now.

👑 Queen energy aesthetics include: golden accents, high embellishments, opulent scents and heavy florals, materials like velvet and intricate lace, jewel tones like ruby, sapphire or amethyst in combination with gold.

👑 Carry yourself with the pride, grace and poise of a woman who knows she has regal blood running through her veins, who can conquer anything and everything she desires!

👑 Whenever you feel your confidence wavering, pull back your shoulders, straighten your spine, lift your chin. Don’t let the burdens of the world twist the proud line of your spine. Remember who you are. You’re a queen, babe!

👑 To emulate the quality of queen energy, think of the astrological sign Leo: the radiance of the sun, the generous warmth of sunlight. Think confidence, power, drama, theatric performance. Think lion-like pride and glorious presence. All of those things capture the essence of queen energy.

👑 Concerning romance, understand that being a queen implies taking ownership over your kingdom, and ruling with a steady hand for the wellbeing of your kingdom. In this case, your kingdom is your body, mind, heart and soul. Never give away the rulership to someone else; you may invite them in, host them at your palace, share the beauty of your world with them, but never surrender your power. It is your kingdom.

👑 To extend the metaphor, a queen knows that only a king is a worthy partner (ie. a gentleman). This means you guard your heart with care and don’t entertain partners that don’t understand your high value, nor know how to appreciate you. By entertaining them, you are only surrendering your crown and throne in order to sit on their level.

Much love, darling queens 💋

-Lumen

femmefatalevibe:

• Mirror selfies with your face or part of your face covered
• Full-length body photos from behind or with your face tilted over your shoulder
• Incorporating your arms/legs/torso in an aesthetic shot (like holding a bouquet and just exposing your forearm or holding the flowers over (a portion) of your face
• “Soft launch” couple, friendship duo, or group photos (a mysterious hand on hip, wrist in a table flat lay, or mirror selfie while hugging)
• Shadow photos with a reflection from a wall, floor, or a blurry/distorted mirror

Some less conventional photo inspirations include THIS, THIS, or THIS.

Hope this helps xx

sayhoneysiren:

embracing your dark feminine energy is basically saying fuck being obedient. feminines have been taught for so long to hide away, cover up, be silent, banish witchcraft, ignore your intuition, stop creating, be less selfish, be thoughtless.

but the dark feminine energy is about embracing the forbidden and not giving a fuck about being ‘good’ in the eyes of others.

it’s embracing your naked body. it’s indulging in your pleasures without guilt. its speaking your mind with boldness. it’s trusting and following your gut, even when others may think you’re dumb. it’s saying no. it’s setting clear boundaries. it’s protecting your energy from manipulation and harm.

the dark feminine energy is a force that is cunning, unpredictable, wild, magnetic, intuitive, pleasure seeking and limitless. it is both a creator and a destroyer. it is god.

don’t be afraid of your dark feminine power or influence because others are intimidated by it. ignore those who deem you ‘bad’ and continue to own your divine power.

follow @succulentsiren for more dark feminine energy posts♠️